5 Relationship Mistakes That Influence Financial Decisions

How we spend money is often affected by our moods and our moods are often affected by people. Often times, we generate our actions based on how we feel at the moment and forget that it may have long term repercussions.

Mistake #1: Your best friend just put a down on a brand new Lexus after he received a promotion. You've got money in the bank saved up and you know you can afford a better car than what he just bought. Now, you're surfing the internet for the best dealership markdowns and you want to show off that you're doing just as well as he is.

The real deal: Not only will your friend see that you've taken the time to buy a new car after him but he might just take your friendship to a different perspective that you look at him as competitor. He'll also see that you feel threatened by his actions and have insecurities about yourself of being unable to go with the flow of his lavish lifestyle. Save your money instead and save your friendship. If it wasn't your intention in the first place to upgrade your vehicle, then pause that thought until you're lucid about what you want and are positive that you know you need a new car. You never know, especially with the market fluctuating, he may admire you later on when you get an even newer model and make of a vehicle when you know for certain you'll be satisfied with your purchase and your own self.

Mistake #2: Your significant other dumps you. The next week at the classy restaurant three cities from you, you just happen to spot them with a new date. All of the sudden, you want to step up your appearance and drastically change what you look like to make the envious.

The real deal: You're ready to hit up the mall and feel that if you buy that one outfit or change your hair that you'll definitely get them to notice you again and make them feel sorry for ever letting you go. At the end of the day, you realize that you've blown a week's paycheck on the seven bags of clothes, accessories, shoes, and whatever else is on those receipts when you get home. If you're a female, you can add another $150.00 for getting your nails, hair, pedicure, and facial done. They see you again and notices how ravishing you look a couple weeks later yet now, they're introducing you to their fiancé. It turns out they were just taking a break, they dated you, and they went back to them. On top of that, the outfits you bought just went on sale and now you've missed the opportunity to save $50.00. Then, you might just be secretive and call them or text to ask what went wrong in your last relationship. Their answer just happens to be your personality and in the end it had nothing to do with how attractive you were.

Mistake #3: Everyone is going to Europe this summer and you've always wanted to go. They'll think you're broke if you don't go - at least that's what you believe. You're looking at the bank account and only $2,000 is sitting there. You know that if you bought a ticket and went on your way, you can survive on it.

The real deal: Tickets are not cheap, especially to Europe. Then, you'll have to estimate travel costs outside of the airport in order to get around. So now you've purchased the ticket, went on your way to Europe, paid for a hotel and realized that you're down to your last cent. You told your friend the situation and now you just look plain foolish for ever going because it was never in your budget. Now, not only do you look broke but look outstandingly dumb for spending your last dime and everyone has to pitch in for you to get back home eventually yet that trip date isn't until a week from now. Your meal ticket is your friend's budget. That's certainly inconvenient and a burden to other people. Make sure that you have enough money to go on vacation even if you think you seriously deserve one, it's the worst thing to be trying to relax and stress out about something else instead. Tip: Buy tickets at least eleven months in advance to a location you've really wanted to go for sometime and only when you have reserved money to splurge on it. Then, create a savings account where you put something in every time you get a paycheck or extra money. In about eleven months, you should be smiling to cultural music and buying souvenirs for people back home, taking pictures along exotic coastlines, or mailing back a pictures of foreign landmarks. Use your best judgement.

Mistake#4: You've got mutual friends with your partner and it just so happens an anniversary came up and they bought their significant other an extravagant gift. You're ecstatic waiting for a special occassion to happen because you want something similar.

The real deal: The last thing on their mind is to get you an extravagant gift. To be completely honest, you shouldn't be expecting any type of gift unless they've mentioned it because it's one thing to be given a gift, it's another to expect a grand gesture. Just because your friend or sibling received a $1,000 gift card or a Rolex doesn't mean you should expect the same for your mate. Even if you've bought your partner a car, a ring, and all the other fancies - it doesn't mean that they're required to give the extravance you've been able to afford. First of all, an occassion should be meaningful and whatever is given to you is a sign of acknowledgement that they care about you. Second, even a card should be enough to signify the importance of that date. Avoid phrases such as, "You know what you can get me for ..." or "For my birthday, I want you to get me a ..." Phrases such as these turn people off and feel obligated to get you something along these lines even if they can't afford it. Avoid these situations and be grateful for someone who loves you enough to let you know somehow. Besides, money can't buy love.

Mistake#5: It's been tough lately to find a job and you've been searching all day. The bills are due and you're panicking. You've got an idea to call some friends out for a loan. That should bail you out for a while.

The real deal: Don't borrow money from friends because not all friendships are secure. There's a phrase that goes borrow from a friend and collect from an enemy which is many times true. Some friends like to gossip or accuse you of taking advantage of them. Some friends want their money back immediately and as already mentioned, you're struggling to find a job so two months down the line, you're still financially hurting and now you owe them money too. My suggestion is to go to your city's human services office of welfare for help. If you have shut off notices, you may be entitled to immediate cash aid and utility services. If you need food, they provide services where they can fund your needs as well as enroll you in a government health care program. This includes any dependents if you have any such as a spouse or children. They'll help you in every way possible to get by. Also, call your creditors and let them know the situation so they can extend your due dates or waive/minimize payments. These people are more than willing to work with you.